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But moving out of your parents’ home, and living with two or three, or maybe even five or six strangers, can be a daunting prospect, so here are a few tips that can help with finding new friends, and making those first few weeks at university a bit easier.Get involved The choice of events, clubs and societies at university is endless.Befriend the international students However nervous you are, spare a thought for any international students – especially those for whom English might not be a first language – who have it far harder.Go out of your way to chat to them – or explain the finer nuances of Tesco versus Asda, and you could find you’ve got a new friend already.I’m going to tell you something that you already know: dating is a frustrating process of trial and error.For a lot of people, it’s a seemingly never-ending dance of missed connections, nights you’ll never get back again and wondering just what’s wrong with you and why everybody else seems to have it so much easier. In fact, for many people, online dating is such a trial that they give up early on.Have spare pens with you when you go to lectures Being able to lend one to the person in the seat next to you who’s forgotten theirs is a good way to start a conversation with someone who’ll be on hand when you want to talk to someone about your course!Study groups After seminars or tutorials, suggest to a couple of people that you form a study group – getting together once a week to go over lecture notes and reading lists can be a great way to make new friends and get some academic help at the same time.
All of this subconscious presentation and filtering is lost in online dating; all we have are our words and our photos, so we have to consider how to craft as attractive a snapshot of ourselves as possible.Volunteer Your student union or accommodation provider will be able to give you advice on local charities and groups who need volunteers.It’s a great way to meet new people and do something worthwhile, at the same time as building your skills and enhancing the all-important CV. Your university will almost always have a Facebook page (and there may even be one for your hall or accommodation), where you can find out who else will be joining at the same time as you.Or run a few searches on Twitter – there’s bound to be plenty of people at your new university, on your course, or in the same accommodation as you.Getting to know a few people online before you move to a brand new city can make the transition much easier.